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July 26, 2018

Unfriendly cities are the best place to get work done

Filed under: General Stories — admin @ 9:33 am

I remember when I was in my late teens and early twenties, I wanted to socialize a lot. There was no end to the quantities of people I met. Unfortunately, I could count the quality friendships I had on one hand, but I guess that is true for most people. Perhaps I would have done better at school if I had focused entirely on school and not on parties, etc. But, on the other hand, ever since I graduated, the opportunities to socialize have almost completely dried up and it has been desperate and lonely. I got so lonely I wanted a second job doing wine tasting so I could meet cool people. But, I don’t know enough about wine to do that job (although I could read up.)

In any case, I noticed that my work like did well once I moved from Massachusetts to California. As a child, Massachusetts was a friendly place. Many people were mean, but at least people talk to you in their own crass or snobby way. New Yorkers are also friendly and often crass. But, in California, the small talk is limited, and over half the people I meet are not strong in English which is yet another reason why I am lonely. It is hard to find friends here and hard to get together with friends if you have them because everyone is so busy and traffic is so horrible.

But, I noticed that I got a lot of work done here as a result of having limited social opportunities. I work seven days a week, succeeded in business, and do my daily walking. The doctor says I lost 14 pounds in the last year since I saw him last. Must be all the walking that I do rain or shine, not to mention regular salads, although I don’t have salads every day. Maybe this year I’ll lose 50 pounds and walk a lot more. I like feeling healthy.

So, if you want to get work done, move to a city where people are downright unfriendly. Los Angeles takes the cake in this regard. I have never seen a more unfriendly group of people. Even in Germany I had more quality conversations than here, and the Germans are by far the most unfriendly and frigid bunch of people I have ever seen. But, I guess in German culture, they don’t bother with inconsequential small talk like Americans which I am culturally accustomed to. They either have a meaningful conversation or none at all. Ouch!!!

However, if I retire or slow down, I would consider moving to New Mexico where I feel more connected with the people and the spirits.



  1. It must be the area. I work in central and southwest Virginia in cities and in rural areas and with few exceptions, I find the vast majority of my signing contacts to be very cordial.I feel that I have the Best Job that I have ever had. I visit a “different office” everyday and meet a lot of interesting people because “Everyone has a Story”. THE NOTARY LIFE IS GOOD!!

    Comment by Dennis Brooks — July 26, 2018 @ 4:58 pm

  2. Interesting, I feel that my town Cincinnati, is very friendly.


    Comment by Ken — July 26, 2018 @ 9:38 pm

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